When Millenials (who are church outsiders) look into the church and see a building, a program, thought process, an approach to its neighbours, a dress code, technology that looks like it hasn't changed since before they were even born, they honestly think – that place isn't for me. That's not a place that understands the current culture. That's not a place that understands what I'm going through.

Through my time as a church helper, I've talked to churches who have told me, "we tried ___, but it didn't work." When I ask why, usually the answer is "we don't know. Often, these conversations end with people agreeing that they never knew what "working" looked like, so they honestly didn't know if they ever got there.

Here are 3 conversations you can start with your church or elders that can lead to making an impact in 2021.

Everyone in your church measures success somehow- and that's not a bad thing. When someone measures success, it means they're looking to see if what they're doing is working. The problem comes when all those people are measuring success in different ways. When that happens, you run into a problem with expectations and opinions about what should happen next.